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        Purity. It means the absence of anything harmful, inferior or unwanted. Purity Balls are elaborate ceremonies that mark the father as guardian of his daughters’ chastity until marriage. In these cultish rituals girls as young as toddlers swear to their fathers to keep themselves wholesome and abstain from sex until they get married. While it might look like the pledge is a nice gesture from children with healthy morals, it’s more a play of deprivation that encourages ignorance towards safe-sex and indoctrinates them with the idea that the act is impure, until marriage that is. It is also a twisted act of control from the fathers who swear before god to protect their daughters purity by teaching them fidelity, and the shunning of pornography. Does anyone else picture these girls growing up with serious daddy issues?     

       Like the “Silver Ring Thing” these girls swear to abstain from sex until marriage, writing off the alternatives such as protected sex or any other healthy way to express love through intimacy. And while no one is encouraging young girls to go off and bang anything that moves, it’s unhealthy for them to not know how to express themselves or conduct themselves when the act finally does happen. Who’s to say they are going to want to get pregnant as soon as they get married. This suppression (oppression?) of the self also plants the seed that there must be something wrong about sex and as that grows, it will either mean the girl will gain an unhealthy curiosity about it that could lead to promiscuity or they will continue to harbor ill feelings about and never feel quite right about doing it once they do get married. Either way, they could be facing an unhealthy sex life down the road.    

        And what about their partner? Surely there’s a snowball’s chance in hell that they would find a man who has dedicated himself to the same way of life, and if they did, the young man would obviously run the risk of harboring the same inclinations towards it. So what about the sexual history of their partner? Who knows what kind of fetish someone could be hiding deep down, perhaps the rough deflowering of daddy’s little virgin? Surely you’d want to clear the air of any such thing before you got married! And what if they are unaware of a disease lurking inside them? Due to a lack of knowledge about safe sex, the first-timer is now open infestation from a myriad of stealthy diseases.        

      The part of the fathers in this whole thing is awkward and invokes the thought of incestuous fantasies on their part. While that might seem far-fetched and a little disgusting on my part, just think that this all has to do with the father caring so much about his daughter’s sex life. Yeah, it’s a nice thought that you’d want to keep your daughter pure and wholesome but what about her growing up and taking these things into her own hands (or Heaven forbid somewhere else!)? What if she isn’t married by the time she’s twenty-five? Will the dad’s still be meeting every potential boyfriend and introducing himself by saying “I still hold the key to my daughter’s chastity belt so mind your cock!”?    

       I’m reminded of the stories of how cavemen would sew their mate’s vulva shut while away on hunting trips or completely cut off their labia so as to disfigure them and make it that no other man would want anything to do with them. And I get the idea that if these fathers could manage a painless way to do it, they would! My good friend and his wife are about to have their second daughter in the next few weeks and I know Garron would be ready to brutally murder anyone who did wrong to his babies but I’m sure even he would see something wrong in keeping his daughters from growing up and becoming women. I mean, sure, no one wants to think of their daughter growing up to be a sexual being but you can’t stop it. Part of becoming an adult is learning about the sexual side of yourself and it has a great affect on who you are, as both an adult, and part of an intimate relationship. And for all the dad’s taking part in these purity balls, I think they need to stop and reflect on all the depraved acts they perform with their wives, after all, she was someone’s little girl once, too.

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